To all my followers who are not from India, I must tell you that we Indians are very very friendly people. Good as neighbours and great as relatives! In fact we traditionally have a joint family system – which means two or three generations living together in the same house!
But we also offer many free advises – can even do that to a random person walking on a street. And when it comes to friendships or relations, our advises may turn into pokes. 😉
I don’t know why some people just do not understand the term “boundaries”
Being a woman in India is a tough job. So, here I am – just extracting some humour out of the friendly advises I get every now and then from people around me. Keeping the mood light…. 😉
You should have kids soon
I wanna ask these people – why? Why is it so damn compulsory to have kids soon after marriage? I may not be prepared for kids yet. May be I don’t want kids at all. It’s my choice! Can I life my life my way please?
You Should Wear Mangalsutra
A Mangalsutra is a black beaded necklace which married Indian woman wear. Traditionally its compulsory to wear a mangalsutra by every married woman in India. If it doesn’t compliment my outfit, I would not wear it. Have a problem? Don’t bother. I am only answerable to my husband. 🙂 And he doesn’t have any problem with that!
You Have Gained Weight After Marriage
Oh my God I was totally unaware of this fact!! Thanks for enlightening me! I mean seriously?? Saying that every time I meet the same person isn’t going to help!
You Should Know Cooking to Make Your Family Happy
What kind of stereotype is that? Although I can cook, but I am not a “good” cook . I thought all I would need to keep my upcoming family happy – was love. Simple. Isn’t it?
You Should Dress Up Ethnic More Often(they mean to say always)
ME : Can I dress the way I like?
THEY : No, you have to think about how we will judge you. How we will see you as a wrong and reckless woman. So, wear saris and suits only.
You Should Not Get Too Much Involved With Work
This is the golden piece of advice I have ever got. I’ll never forget it. Reason for the advice – A woman should concentrate and give herself completely to the family.
THE REAL POINT
Why would I ever want to ignore my family? Is there any woman out there who would not love to see happy faces around her? Don’t judge me just because I chose to express myself. Don’t consider me a selfish person if I don’t wear a sari or mangalsutra. My work is my identity. I will always love my family. But I can’t lose my identity. Thanks. 🙂